But have you tried telling them you learn better by doing?

Man, tell me about it. Honestly, my family's holiday drama is so predictable I could sell tickets. Last year I tried to change the subject and somehow started a fight about the correct way to load a dishwasher. Still getting side-eye over plates.

Learned that lesson the hard way too.

Man, that's rough but true. You see this kinda thing everywhere, not just in families. Like at work or with friends, people always compete for attention when they feel overlooked. That blunt honesty cuts deep, but it does clear the air a bit. Makes you notice all the silent favoritism games going on around us, lol.