My friend swore the '3 date rule' was outdated and I should text after the first date if I wanted to

So my buddy Mark kept telling me I was being too old school by waiting a couple days to reach out after a date. He said girls lose interest fast these days. I went on a really good date last Tuesday with this woman named Jen from the coffee shop near my office. Texted her the next morning saying I had fun and wanted to see her again. She replied back that night saying she appreciated the honesty but felt rushed and blocked me. Now I'm wondering if Mark has ever actually been on a date in 2025 or if he's just getting his advice from TikTok. Has anyone else had the 'text too soon' backfire on them?

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drew96511d ago

Wait did your buddy Mark ever explain what happens if you text too fast vs too slow? I mean I've got a friend who swears by the "wait 24-48 hours" rule and another who thinks you should text within two hours to show you're interested. Last year I accidentally texted a girl the same night after our date because I got home and saw a funny meme she would have liked. She thought I was being too eager and gave me a really polite brush off the next day. So yeah maybe there's something to not seeming too available. Idk man dating advice is basically chaos these days.

kim19111d ago

Honestly I think people overthink this texting stuff way too much. If you saw a funny meme and wanted to share it, that's just being normal, not "too eager." That girl probably just wasn't that into you and used the texting thing as an excuse. I've texted people right after dates tons of times and it never caused issues. The whole waiting game feels like high school drama. If someone's going to judge you for sending a meme the same night, they're probably looking for reasons to bail anyway. Life's too short to play 48 hour games. Just text when you feel like it and if they don't like it, they're not your person.