Met a girl who only talked about her ex for 45 minutes straight

Last week I went on a date at a diner in Omaha. She seemed nice at first. Then she pulled out her phone and showed me photos of her ex's motorcycle. For 45 minutes. I counted the time on my watch. I asked her one question about her job and she looped right back to how he proposed. Waitress refilled my coffee twice before I finally said I had an early delivery. Anyone else notice dating feels more like therapy sessions now?

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terry_wood5126d ago

My buddy Dave went through the exact same thing last month, met a girl for coffee and she spent the first 20 minutes crying about how her ex cheated on her with someone from her yoga class. He said he finally just asked if she wanted to get the check and she acted surprised like he was the one being weird. It's like people forgot the first date is supposed to be light and fun, not a full confession booth. I get that everyone has baggage but maybe save the heavy stuff for the third date minimum.

the_sam26d ago

That reminds me of my cousin actually. He went on a first date where the girl brought a binder full of printed out text messages from her last relationship, color coded with highlighters. She wanted him to read through them so he could "understand her trauma." He sat there flipping through like 30 pages while she watched him like it was a job interview. The waitress came by three times and he just kept saying not yet. Finally he paid and left and she texted him later saying he lacked emotional depth. Made me think maybe we need to bring back those old school dating etiquette books or something.

caseym4816d ago

...and that's the thing though, isn't it? Like where do people get this idea that a first date is basically a free therapy session? I'm genuinely curious what goes through someone's head when they decide to unload all their relationship trauma on a complete stranger over coffee. Do they think it's gonna make them seem "emotionally available" or something? Because from where I'm sitting it just looks like they haven't dealt with their own stuff yet and they're hoping the new person will fix it for them. It always makes me wonder if they even realize how awkward and unfair it is to put that pressure on someone they just met.