Your sister's jealousy feels like a separate issue from your mom's concern, lol. Is she maybe upset because she doesn't feel she has the same freedom in her own life? Unpacking that could be the real key to cutting the drama.

But symmetry is pottery 101?

Read somewhere that pros clean after every smoke.

Wow, that's wild! (I once tried soy sauce in my coffee for a salty kick, and it was a bad idea.) My food mess-ups are famous, like when I put mustard on ice cream. I even mixed ranch dressing into my mashed potatoes once, which was just sad. Your ketchup oatmeal might actually be okay next to my fails.

How do you ever get a moment to yourself? My three are always underfoot when I need a break. Just trying to use the bathroom alone is a challenge. They bang on the door or start yelling for help with something. I gave up on quiet years ago, it's just not happening.