My dating life got worse after I stopped drinking on dates, and I think "sober dating" advice is oversold
I quit drinking on first dates 8 months ago here in Charlotte because I kept waking up not remembering half the night, and my match rate stayed the same but my second date rate dropped from about 1 in 3 to 1 in 6. The dates got clearer, sure, but I also stopped laughing at dumb jokes, stopped staying out past 10pm, and started noticing every red flag in the first 20 minutes instead of overlooking them. So for people who went sober mid-dating-life, did your dates actually get better or did you just get pickier and lonelier?