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Had to pick between defending my coworker in a meeting or keeping my mouth shut, and I picked wrong
Back in March our team lead in Denver went after my coworker during a call about a missed deadline, and she was not even in the room to defend herself. I sat there for what felt like 10 minutes while 6 other people just let it happen, and I said nothing because I was up for a promotion. I got the promotion 3 weeks later, and she got quietly moved to another team after a bunch of people started treating her like the problem. She found out I was in that call and never asked me once why I stayed quiet, which somehow felt worse than if she had yelled at me. Now I keep thinking about how fast a whole room can turn on one person over something that was never really her fault. Has anyone here actually spoken up in a meeting like that and did it cost you anything, or did people back you up?
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julia_carter7018d ago
Is it really that serious though? People get moved to different teams and passed over for stuff all the time, and yeah it sucks but that's just how offices work. You didn't actually do anything to her, you just didn't jump in when someone else was running their mouth. Was it a jerky move? Sure. But does sitting quiet in one meeting really make you the reason her whole career went sideways? I doubt it. If the room was already turning on her, one voice probably wasn't gonna flip that anyway. You got your promotion and she landed somewhere else, and honestly that happens to a thousand people every week. Feeling bad about it is fine but acting like you ruined her life seems like a stretch.
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