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Overheard a guy at the coffee shop say 'honesty without kindness is just cruelty'
I was waiting for my drink yesterday and this guy was talking to his friend about a tough conversation. He said, 'I used to think being brutally honest meant just saying whatever I felt, no filter.' His friend replied, 'Yeah, but honesty without kindness is just cruelty.' That stuck with me. I've definitely used 'brutal honesty' as an excuse to be harsh before. Now I think the point here is to be real, but you still gotta think about the other person. Has anyone else had a moment that made them rethink how they give feedback?
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nancyramirez6mo ago
My therapist calls it compassionate honesty.
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sageross6mo ago
Sounds like a fancy way to say "be nice when you're critical." Not sure every thought needs that much packaging.
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west.anna5mo ago
Yeah, and it's not just about being nice, it's about the goal. Like @sageross said, it's packaged, but the package matters if you actually want the person to hear you. If you just drop a harsh truth with no care, people shut down and the honesty is wasted. The kind part is what makes the truth stick.
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