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Hit 10 solid dates without a single ghosting incident
After a brutal streak of 5 ghostings in a row last fall in Austin, I finally figured out my problem. I was doing way too much planning and not leaving space for them to show interest first. Since I stopped sending those long "here's the plan" texts before the first date even happened, things have been way more chill and mutual. Has anyone else found that backing off the planning made a big difference in how dates went?
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terryh203d ago
Had a buddy in Denver who was the exact same way, overplanning everything down to the minute. He finally just started suggesting a simple coffee walk and let her pick the place, and his date success rate went way up. Guess people like feeling like they have a say in the fun.
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the_max2d agoTop Commenter
Man that reminds me of my cousin who’d plan these elaborate picnic dates with themed baskets and everything. He switched to just asking "wanna grab tacos at that place down the street?" and suddenly girls were actually showing up.
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zarab242d ago
Oh man this hits so close to home. My best friend was the exact same way with over the top first dates. He would rent out a whole kayak tour for sunset and pack a gourmet charcuterie board. Girls would always cancel at the last minute or just never text back. Then he started simply saying "hey wanna grab coffee at that little shop on Main Street?" and suddenly he was getting second dates all the time. It's like people really just want the pressure off. They want to feel like they can relax and be themselves instead of performing for some big production. Plus tacos or coffee gives everyone an easy out if the vibe is off no awkward lingering over a three course meal. Your cousin figured out the secret it's really that simple.
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