Just realized my brother-in-law's comment about co-parenting was actually right

He said I needed to stop treating every text from my ex like a personal attack and just focus on logistics for the kids. It hit different because he's been divorced 8 years and has a solid routine with his ex, and I realized I've been holding onto anger that's only making drop-offs harder. Has anyone else had a family member point out something you weren't ready to hear?

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wyattrobinson15d ago

Haven't we all been there though? My dad said something similar to me when I was still doing the whole "every text is a grenade" thing with my ex. I was so mad at him at first, like how dare you take her side. But then I realized he wasn't taking her side, he was just looking out for me and the kids. Turns out once I stopped reading between the lines and just stuck to "what time is pickup" and "she needs her coat" everything got way less tense. It's wild how someone on the outside can see the forest through the trees when you're still stuck in the weeds.

thomas.tyler15d ago

Man I feel this one hard, @wyattrobinson. My brother tried to tell me the same thing when I was going through my split, and I remember thinking he just didn't get it. But looking back, he was right. Keeping texts to just the logistics of the kids, like school stuff or doctor appointments, took all the guesswork out. It's amazing how much easier things get when you stop trying to read into every little word.