That stat about men ghosting after 3 dates really got me

I was reading this survey on DatingAdvice.com last weekend and it said 63% of guys under 30 will ghost after the third date if they haven't gotten physical yet. That honestly blew my mind because I thought ghosting was more random, not tied to a specific number of dates. I had this guy from Austin disappear on me right after date 3 last month and now I'm wondering if that stat was the reason. Has anyone else seen numbers like that and changed how you handle the first few dates?

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hart.cora12d ago

63% of guys under 30 will ghost after three dates if they haven't gotten physical yet" is just... I mean, that's a wild number. I had to read it twice because it sounds like something made up for clicks but then I looked at the sample size and it was over 2000 guys so maybe it's real. It makes me wonder if all those first few dates I've been on were basically just ticking a box for them.

piper_reed12d ago

Haha, "ticking a box" is exactly the right way to put it, I've absolutely felt that way. I went on like six dates with a guy last year, all fun, good conversation, but I wanted to take it slow. After the third date he literally stopped texting, and I'm pretty sure I was just a checkmark on some list for him. It's such a bummer when you think you're connecting but find out you were just part of a numbers game the whole time. Your mileage may vary, but I've definitely started noticing that pattern more and more.